“When a person realizes he has been deeply heard, his eyes moisten. I think in some real sense he is weeping for joy. It is as though he were saying, ‘Thank God, somebody heard me. Someone knows what it’s like to be me’.” ~ Carl R. Rogers
Individual therapy focuses on emotions that you are experiencing in the moment. We will explore more specifically where these feelings are coming from and possibly how they originated. After gaining some perspective on what the issues at hand, we will move towards maintaining healthy thoughts and emotions which leads to healthy behaviors.
We will work collaboratively to determine what issues are causing you distress and from there, decide together what you would like to work on first. My role is to provide insight, understanding, and possibly new perspectives in order to help you cope with overwhelming thoughts or emotions and make necessary adjustments to effect change.
Many clients believe it is the therapist’s job to make them feel better. While feeling better may be the outcome of counseling, it is not always the case in every situation. The therapist’s main role is to help the client feel the emotion more clearly and to perhaps provide insight as to why it is surfacing so intensely at the present time. Individual therapy is a safe place to experience emotions, no matter what they are or how they manifest. It may seem counterintuitive to think of therapy as not making you feel better, but if one can fully allow and accept an emotion without duress (which can prompt unhealthy or destructive reactions), then one can learn to handle stronger emotions in the future. If a client develops the capacity to endure intense negative emotions, then a process of normalizing and desensitizing occurs, thereby reducing the tendency to react and/or take action against uncomfortable feelings.
ENDING INDIVIDUAL THERAPY
Individual therapy can be short or long term. It’s an organic process, not a “one-size-fits-all.” Many clients choose to come in less frequently (bi-weekly or monthly) for awhile once progress has been made and have found the accountability of having check-ins in therapy helps them maintain the level of progress more consistently. We will discuss the possibility of ending counseling as you feel healthier and more deliberate in your daily life on a consistent basis.